Q. Ok so I have a couple of questions about moving. I wrote you before about getting married in April. I’m sure you probably don’t remember but we plan to have our wedding over Easter 96. He plans on coming home in Feb. for Presidents Day for multiple reasons but we also talked about getting married at the court-house (nothing fancy at all) just so we can get our marriage license so we can go ahead and put in for housing.
I have heard that it can take 2 weeks or longer to get housing. Do you think it would be a good idea to do that or not? I plan on staying here and not moving down there till after the wedding so i can still help with planning the wedding but if he puts in for housing and gets a house do we have to move in within a couple of days? If so how many?
Also He hears that you get a couple of days once u get a house for time to move in, is this true? If so how many days do they give you?
Also do you have to take those days right when you get housing? I don’t know whether we should wait on putting in for housing now because if he gets days we would rather them be days when we can actually move our stuff and get settled.
If you can’t tell im very new to the whole moving deal, very misinformed, and very confused. I hope all that made sense and if you have any other advice on anything I might have missed please inform me. I really appreciate all your advice and help!
Dear Military Spouse says……..
Whew! I’d be more than happy to answer your questions! I know you must feel overwhelmed! Again congrats on getting married.
How long before you will be able to get (move) into military housing?
The waiting list for housing is different everywhere. For some places there isn’t a waiting list, others the waiting list may be a month long, and yet others, the waiting list can be 1 or 2 years long. Yes, you heard me right, I said years. The only way to know for sure is to call the housing office and ask. Your spot on the waiting list is determined by his rank and the number of dependents he has. This will also determine how many bedrooms he is given, so you will need to have this information handy when calling.
How quickly do you have to move into military housing once you get the house?
If you put yourself on the waiting list (which can only be done after you are married and he has put you on his DEERS); and your number comes up he can either choose to accept the house or deny the house. If he accepts, he will need to sign for the house.
That doesn’t necessarily mean you have to move into it right then, just be advised that even if you don’t move into it right then, that his BAH will get taken out starting immediately. Also, you should plan to move into the house within at least a couple of weeks.
If housing finds out you are not living in it, they can terminate the lease and you will lose the house. Housing can also terminate the lease if they find out his dependents are not living in it, just him. If he denies the house when offered, your name will be moved back to the bottom of the list. Now, this is how it is supposed to work, as with anything in the Military it can vary greatly, so it’s best to talk to the housing office.
Does the servicemember get days off to move into housing after getting married?
When you PCS you are supposed to get what is known as permissive TDY. Military members are allowed a permissive TDY for up to 10 days in conjunction with a PCS within the 50 states and Washington D.C. This is only allowed during a PCS, so if he is not PCSing then he is not allowed it.
So lets assume he is already at his duty station. He comes home on leave, y’all get married, he goes back and puts in for housing and gets housing right away or even 2 months later. If he wants any time off to move, he will need to take leave.
Now some commanders are nice and will give him a 4-day weekend pass. Again, this is at the discretion of his command. Also, because he was already at his duty station before y’all got married, the government will not pay to move you there. There are some exceptions to this rule, but you should just expect to foot the entire moving bill.
Hope this helps you some, and if you have any more questions feel free to ask!
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